REALLY??

















why do women feel reluctant about making friends with other women, but have no problem opening up and sharing with a man they've just met?

is the sisterhood dead?????

I can understand the trust factor, but in the case of the woman who's trying to establish this new friendship isnt she just putting herself out there and possibly setting herself up for rejection??


and what about the woman whos being pursued as the new friend? She doesn't know what to expect either(single white female, hand that rocks the cradle,remember those chicks???)
but when you have two women who meet and have some things in common,WHERE'S THE PROBLEM???

Popular opinion is that women are used to their already established friends....
we've been through the crisis, the tears, the make-ups, the break-up together and getting a new girlfriend for some is just a time consuming waste of time.

Alot of us arent open to new friends, but in my case i only have three friends and im open to meet new people and expand my friend circle.,but its hard.

You never know if you're offending this person,if your too hood, too eager, too pushy and in most cases too nice.


so what do we do????

My only advice to women out there looking to make new friends,be yourself.
And if that doesnt work let your new friends come to you..if your a great person like me ...they will come.

im mad as hell....................

ok i leave my d&g dominatrix shoes at my bff's house over the weekend and she calls me and tells me she let another one of our friends wear them and that persons car gets impounded....with my shoes in them.ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!

ok im not this big shot diva kinda girl but i do love shoes especially the ones i paid money for and my friend doesnt buy her shoes the way i buy my shoes (payless anyone?) i go to dsw, bakers, nine west, endless.com i buy shoes.
she is responsible for them and i want my money now!!!!

best friend or not im getting tired of her shenanigans(yea, i said shenanigans)
shes irresponsible when it comes to her things and i trusted that if i put them away she would leave them there until i was ready to pick them up. not so.

i'd hate to give her the silent treatment over shoes but they were my fav pair and now their gone...i cannot forgive.

another question: where does it say because were friends i have to suck it up as a loss and just get the money for them and be ok?

money isnt the issue, its the fact that she has no regard for my things and did i mention they were my fav pair???

im mad at her and she knows it.

excuse me ,while i cry.

well the blog is green today and lets talk money.... and men!!!

i recently had a discussion with my bff the other day at the bar...ok lemme tell you what happened and why we were discussing this new phenom.

my bff dee is what you would call almost every mans dream...light-skinned, big booty, long weave and when she gets drunk its whatever(no offense but its true girl, you know it). Anyhoo, there was this guy that she"d had been screwing for a few weeks and she said he had a friend now as you all can see im practically engaged,lol. And that he wanted to meet me (i dont know if he wanted to meet me as a friend or he wanted to reap the same benefits as his friend) but either way i wasnt interested...so, reluctantly we meet (lemme tell you!!!! he was an adonis)
chocolate, built ford tough and the nicest dreads, beautiful smile and all...
upon the initial introduction he asks me "so what do you do for a living? How do you make your money to hang out?

flabbergasted!
i left a little to the imagination i said "i get by and why are you so concerned with my money issues ,we just met?" he took it for what it was and decided i wasnt whatever for him and left. No goodbye, nothing.

which led me to ask the question: upon meeting someone interested or not, does your credit score or lack thereof really determine the men you attract or dont attract?

the friend comes into the bar and has all these excuses why he left( he doesnt drink, hes in real estate and he wanted to know if you were interested in real estate) i told him cut the bullshit and keep the shit real...finally.
he says "well hes been played before by women and hes just keeping an eye on his wallet, and hes about his money"

i was relieved that his friend told the truth(KINDA THATS HIS BOY SO....) but, i was offended that his first question was about my coach wallet...and what was in it.

i guess he wanted this fantasy woman who has her own but lets be honest...
if i did have my own he would have never known...i dont feel like it was tactful,
he was arrogant, and he relied solely on his looks and i think the tables in his case were turned i think hes played a few women and i didnt have enough to support his ego.

theres nothing wrong with having your own ladies,but when hes bumping that neyo shit make sure he has his own too....

to roc(the guy at the bar) FUCK OFF!!!!