letting it go......

theres the inevitable question when we see one of our friends with a guy that treats her crappy....why is she still with him???
and we get the inevitable answer: i love him and i cant let him go.
lets examine this for a moment.
him: treats her like crap and cheats and maybe even hits her.
her:has children with him, first love, every excuse in the book why shes still with him
you:wtf?!!!
for some women its a self-esteem issue, for some its just stupidity..
how can you save her?
you cant.
shes bound to this loser until she sees that hes no good for her and that she deserves better than that..
to be fair lets discuss men who are in this type of relationship:
him:low self-esteem, doesnt feel like he can get anyone else(see a pattern?)
older cat who just aint pulling the ladies anymore,lonely(remember loneliness makes us pick up strange bedfellows),children(baby mama)
her:cheats, takes the car to pick up other men, stays out till ....(whenever)
has a private phone,tells him her liasons are cousins or related in some way, has lots of male friends out of the blue,hes home babysitting while she runs the street
you:wtf?!!
how can you help?
you cant!
hes one of those men thats handsome, sweet,will do anything for the woman hes with but..he chooses to be with this loser who doesnt know what she wants but likes the fact that she has him wrapped around her little finger.
why is it so hard to see that this person is a loser?
that youve become prisoner to his/her actions and that theres hope for someone like you caught in this doomed relationship?
and by the time you get to the grass on the other side your too old to jump the fence?
in most cases is it the money?
is it the children?
or are you just that much of a loser yourself that you cant see how others are treating you?
at any rate:heres my advice:
lifes too short to put yourself on hold for someone and their issues...and when your life flashes before your eyes make sure its worth watching!!!